恐惧是人性

设想一下,我浪费了大半生的时间在害怕。我竟如此懦弱以至无法去追求真正想要的东西,或者去体验能够令我敞开和充实我人生的一切,甚至不敢对身边的人说出自己的心底话。

设想一下,我被恐惧完全瘫痪以至颠倒梦想,甚至自怜。我以为我的安乐窝无比地安全,只要我不越过黄线一步,就没有什么能够伤害我了。殊不知躲在那虚假的安全网后根本起不了半点保护作用。

设想一下,日复一日在我脑海中停不下来、不断荼毒我的无益对话。我甚至令自己相信最好的办法就是紧紧抱住我的恐惧呆在家里。与其用同样的精力和时间来拯救自己,我竟然投入这么多的精力和时间在欺骗自己身上。

我们当中有多少人剥夺了自己想要过的生活,并否定自己成为自己想要成为的人?

Poem: THE PHOENIX

On days we feel like scorched earth, Like corroded rust or trampled dirt, All we have to do is turn our faces, Toward the gentle breeze, And be sprinkled into the four directions, Be swept away by the wind’s tender breath. We are made holy Through this burning, Like a phoenix rising from it ashes To become more powerful Than it ever thought possible. The scorching ...

How to Love and Stay in Love

So, I write about many things. Especially about love, intimacy and relationships. In the process, people write to me and ask for advice. Therefore, I would like to share what I have come to understand about love. Here, I am not talking about that crazy blind love, but a richly passionate, deeply meaningful and fulfilling kind ...

Poem: You are your Masterpiece

And so, this is the sum of our lives Stained from rust of pain, hate and loss Not exempted from sin or the cross We floss away the plaque From our arteries, teeth, and bones Only to find them defiling Our hearts, souls and minds. We leave pieces of ourselves Scattered at every milestone In our life's trying journey Sometimes losing ourselves in a blurry. Nothing ...

The Courage to Love the Broken

Courage means different things to different people. For some, it takes courage to just get out of bed and face the day. For others, it is about breaking another barrier or limiting belief in themselves. To me, nothing demands more courage than opening my heart to love and allowing someone else in. That is the scariest thing to me. Because ...

Fearless Christmas Message 2014

The year is coming to a close. Soon, it will be 2015. Looking back on the year 2014, there have been many special highlights. However, one of the best for me occurred on 11th December to 14th December 2014. As some of you may know, I was actively involved with Gawad Kalinga (GK) from 2007 to 2009. ...

Why Do We Settle?

Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. No one should.  We hear it often enough, don't we? But do we really take it to heart and practice it in our daily life? Many people settle for various reasons. Be it because of fear, or because they do not know any better. Surprisingly, a lot of people settle for less ...

Successful Single Women

English | Chinese The successful single women in Asia are called, "The Leftovers". If you are single, highly educated, successful, and are still not married by age 30 - you will be considered as the "leftover women". And I suppose, the divorced women or single mothers will be at the bottom of that "scrap-heap". My favourite (sarcasm) paragraph from ...

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