They say I am fearless but crazy. They tell me that I am making a huge mistake and I will live to regret it. Behind my back, they snicker and say that I am a reckless and irresponsible mother. That I am not only ruining my own life, but my daughter's as well. They cannot imagine WHY I would ...
In the past, I have always confused love with attachment. I was always seeking something in return from my object of desire. I needed constant affirmations from the person I adored. In fact, I was running on empty and was searching to be filled up from someone else. I did not realise that attachment is more about fear and dependency. Attachment is more about self-preservation and self-gratification. This was why most relationships fall apart. People feed off on one another, instead of nurturing each other.
We cannot heal by ignoring the ugliness in our history, or by wishing to disguise the causes of our brokenness.
We can never heal by adding more hurt, negativity or cracks. We can only heal and move forward in the most beneficial way by forgiveness, understanding and compassion
It all began when a dear Singaporean friend told me about a man with white hair who builds houses for the poor and is turning every slum in the Philippines into a middle class community, and that his NGO is the only platform that unites the rich and the poor, competing brands and businesses, and even rival politicians.
Last month, I had the honour and pleasure to be interviewed by Mike Grogan of BestofYouPH in Manila. I was in the Philippines for my "Meet and Greet" with the selected Filipino Fans on 18th July 2015. It was an amazing special experience which I will share more about in another blog post. Because it warrants its ...
“We are different. We eat different foods, pray to different Gods and wear different skin colours. But we are sisters bound by friendship and love. Because love means peace for all. With love, everyone wins. ” ~ Shirley Maya Tan
So, I write about many things. Especially about love, intimacy and relationships. In the process, people write to me and ask for advice. Therefore, I would like to share what I have come to understand about love. Here, I am not talking about that crazy blind love, but a richly passionate, deeply meaningful and fulfilling kind ...
And so, this is the sum of our lives Stained from rust of pain, hate and loss Not exempted from sin or the cross We floss away the plaque From our arteries, teeth, and bones Only to find them defiling Our hearts, souls and minds. We leave pieces of ourselves Scattered at every milestone In our life's trying journey Sometimes losing ourselves in a blurry. Nothing ...