Recent Posts by shirleymaya

Why Do We Settle?

Don't settle for anything less than you deserve. No one should.  We hear it often enough, don't we? But do we really take it to heart and practice it in our daily life? Many people settle for various reasons. Be it because of fear, or because they do not know any better. Surprisingly, a lot of people settle for less ...

成功的单身女人

English | Chinese 在亚洲,成功的单身女人被称为“剩女”。 如果你单身、拥有高学历和事业成功,但是在三十大关还没结婚,那你就是别人口中的“剩女”。我想以此类推下去,离婚的女人或单亲妈妈简直就是盘底那隔夜的剩饭了。 我最喜欢(真讽刺!)这篇《纽约时报》刊登过的文章: “漂亮的女生不需要高学历来嫁入豪门,但是长相平凡或不漂亮的女生则拥有不同的际遇。这一类平凡女子希望利用学历来增加她们的竞争能力。但不幸的是,她们没有意识到女人会随着年龄增长而贬值,当她们考获硕士或博士学位时,青春早已逝去,就像发黄了的珍珠。” (more…)

Successful Single Women

English | Chinese The successful single women in Asia are called, "The Leftovers". If you are single, highly educated, successful, and are still not married by age 30 - you will be considered as the "leftover women". And I suppose, the divorced women or single mothers will be at the bottom of that "scrap-heap". My favourite (sarcasm) paragraph from ...

My latest article for Huffington Post

Hi everyone, I had a lovely Thanksgiving surprise yesterday. My latest article for Huffington Post has been published! In this article, I shared the 5 important lessons I have learnt after my divorce. Here is a little snippet from the post :- "Sometimes we do not know how much a decision will impact us until it is done. This is ...

Postcard to Helena from Malaysia

Note: This is my postcard reply to Helena. To read Helena's postcard to me, please go here.  My dear Helena, It is so good to hear from you. I am going to start by saying - Don't listen to your fears. They lie. Fears tell us we can't when we really can. They are really skilled at derailing us.  Helena, you ...

Postcard from Helena

Maya, I have not been lucky in love. It’s not that I haven’t had any good relationships, but the fact that I am alone -- well, sort of -- should tell you that I have not been ultimately successful. If one measures success as the trapping of a husband, that is. I have left in my wake a ...

Poem: The Break Down

Note: This is Part Two of my poetic duet with Desiree, whereby she takes on the voice of “The Wife” and I take on the role of “The Husband”. For Part One of our poetic duet, please go here.    THE WIFE Another night of turned backs Silence deepening marital cracks Her physical touches continually spurned Her weary ...

Poem: The Silenced Conversation

Note: This is a poetic duet between Desiree and myself. It is supposed to be a “silent conversation” between an imaginary wife and husband. Here, Desiree plays the "wife", and I took on the role of the “husband”. Kindly please switch to desktop or laptop if you're viewing this from your phone.   THE WIFE I’m your wife. Know me. I’m a ...

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