If we judge others, then we must be prepared to be perfect.
If we demand of others, then we must be prepared to deliver without disappointment.
We can’t expect others to abide by a higher code of conduct when we do not honour it ourselves.
Every person learns and grows differently.
We all deserve the grace to evolve at our own pace and time.
Often times, the Art of Fearless Living is about learning to recognise our own flaws and then, addressing them.
Only in facing our flaws/issues can we stop them from remaining our “bad habits”. Kindly understand that however natural or right our “bad habits” may feel, it does not make them right.
Making judgement calls on those around us is like opening the door, and inviting worse things to come in.
Because this is how it all starts – we begin by “trivial” judging. It may be disguised as a “passing comment”, or a “fault-finding” thought.
Then we reinforce it over time until it becomes a “solid opinion”. We may even apply it across board to a group of people.
For some, they’ll go the extra mile to align themselves with more people who share the same thought/belief patterns, then it becomes a “shared norm”. Some people like doing that. They like gathering in numbers to justify their own prejudices or biases. If we are not careful, this sort of judgemental behaviour may give rise to shaming, bullying or enforcing a belief system unto others.
So, please quit the “holier-than-thou” attitude.
I am not suggesting that we should agree with everyone like mindless idiots. I am proposing that even when we disagree – we can choose to disagree with grace, mutual respect and tact.
The truth is we all sin differently. Hence, let’s not judge on how some sins are acceptable but others are not. The fact remains, we all sin.
Every Saint has a dark past, and every Sinner has a future filled with immense potential for greater good.
There is really no need to make judgement calls.
Whenever you catch yourself judging someone or a group of people, do remember this –
Yes, we can stand up and voice our opinions. And we should. We can even fight for our rights. And we should. But don’t ever forget that others can do too. And they should. Because they share the same rights as we do.
None of us are perfect. And that is totally ok.
There’s a lot that we can learn from one another. And, there is a lot which we can teach each other as well.
Our Humanity is beautifully diverse. As it should be.
Peace, my dear friends. 🙂