Judgement Call

If we judge others, then we must be prepared to be perfect.

If we demand of others, then we must be prepared to deliver without disappointment.

We can’t expect others to abide by a higher code of conduct when we do not honour it ourselves.

Every person learns and grows differently.

We all deserve the grace to evolve at our own pace and time.

Judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are

Often times, the Art of Fearless Living is about learning to recognise our own flaws and then, addressing them.

Only in facing our flaws/issues can we stop them from remaining our “bad habits”. Kindly understand that however natural or right our “bad habits” may feel, it does not make them right. 

Making judgement calls on those around us is like opening the door, and inviting worse things to come in.

Because this is how it all starts – we begin by “trivial” judging. It may be disguised as a “passing comment”, or a “fault-finding” thought. 

Then we reinforce it over time until it becomes a “solid opinion”. We may even apply it across board to a group of people.

For some, they’ll go the extra mile to align themselves with more people who share the same thought/belief patterns, then it becomes a “shared norm”. Some people like doing that. They like gathering in numbers to justify their own prejudices or biases. If we are not careful, this sort of judgemental behaviour may give rise to shaming, bullying or enforcing a belief system unto others. 

So, please quit the “holier-than-thou” attitude. 

I am not suggesting that we should agree with everyone like mindless idiots. I am proposing that even when we disagree – we can choose to disagree with grace, mutual respect and tact

The truth is we all sin differently. Hence, let’s not judge on how some sins are acceptable but others are not. The fact remains, we all sin.

Every Saint has a dark past, and every Sinner has a future filled with immense potential for greater good. 

There is really no need to make judgement calls.

Whenever you catch yourself judging someone or a group of people, do remember this –



Yes, we can stand up and voice our opinions. And we should. We can even fight for our rights. And we should. But don’t ever forget that others can do too. And they should. Because they share the same rights as we do.

None of us are perfect. And that is totally ok.

There’s a lot that we can learn from one another. And, there is a lot which we can teach each other as well.

Our Humanity is beautifully diverse. As it should be. 

Peace, my dear friends. 🙂

Being Afraid Is Human, But Staying Afraid Is A Choice.

  • mihrank
    October 20, 2014

    I admire by your theme and the richness of your post. The title ” Judgment call ” was a positive and energetic dialogue!

  • Ranting Crow
    October 20, 2014

    Keeping an open mind is one thing. To speak your mind is another. Understanding you could be wrong is proven most difficult.
    Learn from others as others learn from you, it is what makes our differences the same.

    • shirleymaya
      October 27, 2014

      This looks or sounds like a continuation from your comments in my other post, “Living by Fearless Faith.” 🙂
      We can definitely keep an open mind and still speak our mind. It is about doing all of these with due respect and compassion.
      If we only choose to speak our mind without seeking to learn or understand – then, we are merely interested in voicing our opinions but not learning from others. That makes a world of difference! 🙂

  • scottishmomus
    October 21, 2014

    This makes so much sense and, like so many things that do, need pointing out regularly for we forget the obvious. You are a wise lady, SS. Your advices are well-heeded and applied.
    Iwill be in touch soon to catch up. Hugs. x

    • shirleymaya
      October 27, 2014

      My darling SS, I just got back to KL after being away for two weeks. I have read your email, and will reply soon. I am always here for you. Big hugs and love x