The Epitome of Beauty

Am I my lips, my hair, 

Or my skin achingly fair?

Am I my eyes, my breasts

That wish to protest but succumb to contests?

Am I my legs and fanny

Or my hair stubbornly unhappy?


Am I the sum of my body parts?

Do you see me without my body parts?

Am I still me, 

Without my skin fair, full breasts and lips?

Will you still want me and love me,

When my skin wrinkles,

When my lips crinkle,

After my breasts dwindle?

Will I still see me?

Will I still love me?


There are many girls and women around the world who are unhappy with the way they look.

In Asia, many women yearn for the fair skin – to the point of whitening their skin. And girls are starving themselves to fit into an ideal size.

All over the world – we ladies tug, pull, diet, nip and snip – just to achieve a version of beauty.

Many have perished over this.

What about the women who have undergone mastectomy and have lost their breasts. Some have lost both their breasts (and more) to Cancer.

Would they become un-beautiful, and feel less of a woman?


We can’t buy, eat or dress beauty – these kinds of beauty cannot sustain us.

What sustains us is loving kindness – loving kindness towards ourselves, and to those around us.

Only then do we become beauty.

By embodying beauty inside and outside, we enjoy everlasting beauty of the heart and soul 🙂


Being Afraid Is Human, But Staying Afraid Is A Choice.

  • REDdog
    July 4, 2014

    For what it’s worth Shirley, I love you with or without full lips, lustrous hair, smooth skin and gravity defying breasts…I have to, I’m in love with your mind. Respect REDdog

    • shirleymaya
      July 5, 2014

      Thank you so kindly, REDdog 🙂 With deep appreciation.

      • REDdog
        July 5, 2014

        6’3″250lb hugs

        • shirleymaya
          July 5, 2014

          Awww…Big hugs back all 156cm of it haha

  • Paul
    July 4, 2014

    Hi Shirley! Long time no see. Welcome back. Great post and so very true. I read an article by a journalist who was interviewing centenarians about what they thought was important in life. One lady , who was 103 years old, said that when she was young she thought being strong and beautiful was important. As she matured she began to believe that being smart was important. Then finally she came to realize that the most important thing in life was kindness.

    • shirleymaya
      July 5, 2014

      Hi Paul, thank you for sharing that story. What a beautiful realisation.
      It has been a challenging time, with lots of visits to the doctors, clinic and hospitals.
      Taking one day at a time.
      Thank you for your constant support and friendship.
      Much appreciated x

  • mihrank
    July 4, 2014

    Just one word – Beautiful!!

  • Ranting Crow
    July 4, 2014

    If one loves oneself the beauty will shine through from the inside out. It is something we got to learn. But do we want to with all that bombardment of advertisements.

    It is good to see you again. Hope you are doing okay Shirley. Always beautiful.
    Keep on smiling and the world will smile with you and if your not smiling, I will put on my red nose. Nad play Rudolph.
    Have a great weekend xx

    • shirleymaya
      July 5, 2014

      Hey RC,

      So nice to hear from you. It has been challenging…still is when a loved one is battling cancer. Taking it one day at a time. Would love to see you with your red nose. Might really need that cheerfulness 😉
      Thank you so much for your kind support and friendship. Means a great deal, especially when I have not been able to keep up with other writers/bloggers. It is very heart warming to have the ones who remain, if you know what I mean.
      Have a beautiful weekend. Big hugs x

  • astraltravler
    July 5, 2014

    Dearest Shirley,
    How are you My Dear Friend? I have been thinking about you. Is it a coincidence that you happen to post today? I don’t know what more I can say @REDdog expressed it best!

    • shirleymaya
      July 5, 2014

      My Dear Anastasia,

      I have been off-line for a long while. Helping a loved one who is battling cancer. So, have not had much time to write or post. Thank you for thinking of me. Hope all is well with you too. Thank you for your kind words and friendship 🙂

      Take good care,

      • astraltravler
        July 8, 2014

        Dearest Shirley,
        I’m so saddened to hear. Sending Love and Light My Dear Friend.

  • Cheryl-Lynn
    July 5, 2014

    Hello, Shirley, what a lovely post…so true; hopefully more women will realize this before they old(er) like me. Hope you are doing okay…I’ve been a bit of a stranger…life gets in the way sometimes. big hugs, Cheryl-Lynn

    • shirleymaya
      July 5, 2014

      Dearest Cheryl-Lynn,

      It is always a pleasure to hear from you. Hope you are doing well. Yes, it does take us a long time to realise that we are all beautiful as we are. If you had read my previous post (The Cancer of May), you would know that I too have been a stranger and been off-line. In any case, it is very nice to be still connected with some friends even if we have been strangers for a bit 😉

      Take good care, my dear.

      Big hugs back,

  • scottishmomus
    July 6, 2014

    It’s so lovely to see you back, Shirley and with such words of wisdom. It is truly sad that perceptions of beauty are often borne only of the surface.
    I hope you are all coping with what is a hellish thing to handle and such a long process of treatment. I know you will stay strong and those around you are fortunate to have you by their sides.
    Btw, on a completely different note, you and my niece from yesterday’s graduation are remarkably similar in face and smile. I’ve noticed it before but it is striking seeing your image above and having seen her only yesterday. Both beauties inside and out.x

    • shirleymaya
      July 7, 2014

      My dearest SS/AM,
      It’s such a pleasure and comfort to hear from you always. So sorry that I have been offline. Timing is rather challenging these days, with doctor visits almost every other day. Taking it one stage at a time. Would email you soon and share more. Btw, I would love to see a pic of your niece 🙂
      Hope all is well with you. Thank you for your gracious friendship, support and care. Most deeply appreciated.

      Love & hugs, always.

  • Mae Acmali
    July 6, 2014

    Hi Shirley! Excellent post; as always 🙂

  • John L. Monk
    August 12, 2014

    Lovely, deep. A topic I’ve pondered on many times when I see people obsessing over beauty, as if that’s what makes them beautiful.

    • shirleymaya
      August 20, 2014

      Thank you, John, for dropping by and taking the time to comment. Beauty needs a new meaningful definition for all of us – men and women. Thank goodness for men like you who believe that beautiful is so much more. 🙂

  • dougstuber
    November 14, 2014

    I too am a fan of Rumi. Without Shams would have he been such an amazing poet? Anyway, without love people drag so many down. As a corollary: if surrounded by those who see beauty as shape or skin tone of the fullness of lips, find a way out and discover your own heart…this will attract another heart-based lover.

    • shirleymaya
      November 14, 2014

      I won’t even attempt to answer your question about Shams and Rumi. However, I do believe that when we understand the deeper meaning of beauty, we would reflect that beauty and even seek it. Because we often seek out what we value, and like.