My first published article for the Elephant Journal

Today was a day filled with many pleasant surprises. It is enough to make one grateful and feel extremely blessed to be alive.

My very first article for Elephant Journal is published today. It’s entitled, The Story of Absence.

In this article, I presented a chronology of my personal “disintegration” leading to my divorce.

I believe, many women (like me) lose their sense of identity through a marriage or divorce. It was like leaving behind a trail of various versions of me in different time lines, not knowing which was the real me and which was not…until the very end, of course. ย Although the process to find myself was excruciatingly painful, it was well worth it. Otherwise, I might still be a “walking ghost” to this day – being “absent” from the real life and world around me.

I sincerely hope that each and every one of you will go over to Elephant Journal, and read my article. Please do comment and share. I would love to know what you think ๐Ÿ™‚

This is another milestone for me personally, and I am truly delighted.

Thank you from the depth of my heart for your very gracious support, always.

Stay fabulously fearless, and love the life you live.

Much care,
SMT

Being Afraid Is Human, But Staying Afraid Is A Choice.

18 Comments
  • scottishmomus
    January 18, 2014

    I love the way you wrote this article. The ‘ absence’ was so pronounced in the way you recounted and depicted the moments. I think we all are absent in those same ways. We leave bits of ourselves all over at different stages of the journey.
    And not the epilogue. ๐Ÿ™‚ Every new stage a new beginning with all the important stuff we’ve learned keeping company on the way. A great write. And congrats on the publishing of it. x

    • shirleymaya
      January 18, 2014

      My dearest spiritual sister at the other side of the world, thank you so much for your beautiful words. I appreciate them deeply. I hope you are able to share the comment above at the Elephant Journal article. That would mean a great deal. Thank you again. We will chat soon when I am all better and up running. Hugs x

  • Charlotte Lea
    January 19, 2014

    What a beautiful article by Shirley Maya Tan. Life experience is a beautiful thing – hind site is a gift. Thank you Shirley xx

  • Charlotte Lea
    January 19, 2014

    What a beautifully written article. Life experience is a beautiful thing – ah! What a gift hind site is. The absence was so well explained. Thank you Shirley. X

    • shirleymaya
      January 19, 2014

      Thank you, Charlotte. Hugs x

  • kdavisfanclub
    January 20, 2014

    excellent, congratulations, Shirley!

  • Sofia
    January 21, 2014

    Congratulations!!!
    Also Thank you for stopping by our blog and commenting.
    xoox

    • shirleymaya
      January 21, 2014

      Thank you, Sofia! I am glad to have stumbled upon your blog. It is very ‘spicy’ to say the least ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Sofia
        January 23, 2014

        You are welcome… I am slowly going through your blog.

        Thank you for reading and being open minded for I know our relationship isn’t for everyone and it can be such a turn-off but while we are kinky there is a lot of love in our relationship.

        Thank you again,
        xoox

        • shirleymaya
          January 23, 2014

          I love how the both of you are so open, and yet so very tender and loving with one another. We each design the relationship and lifetsyle according to us, and not for someone else. They will have to design their own lifestyle platforms. There is no need to judge. I am definitely enjoying your blog. Thank you for visiting mine and sharing your thoughts. Most appreciated ๐Ÿ™‚

          • Sofia
            January 23, 2014

            Thank you so much. ๐Ÿ™‚
            I am enjoying yours as well and your perspectives… ๐Ÿ™‚
            xoox

  • Holistic Wayfarer
    January 29, 2014

    Wow, a touching, fascinating glimpse into the confusion and search for self. Thanks for the like on The Triumph of Forgiveness over at OM’s, S.

    Diana

    • shirleymaya
      January 29, 2014

      Thanks for your message, Diana. You have a lovely blog and I am a firm believer in Forgiveness ๐Ÿ™‚

  • The Hook
    April 1, 2014

    Great work, SMT!

    • shirleymaya
      April 2, 2014

      Thanks so much, Hook. Means a lot coming from you. Hope all is well at your end ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Carol Balawyder
    March 7, 2015

    A very engaging story, Shirley. Very original and creative. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • shirleymaya
      March 20, 2015

      THANKS SO MUCH, CAROL! ๐Ÿ™‚