On Wednesday, 18th September 2013 I posted the above picture in my FB Fan Page with this caption – “This is what a guy in China did for his GF. How do you feel about it?”
Needless to say, it generated a lot of comments and discussions. Not to mention, some strong emotions from both sides – those who think it is just another expression of fearless loving and those who believe it is another form of abuse.
Here, the picture has not painted a thousand words but it has certainly evoked a thousand colourful words from people of various races, creed, gender and ages.
Some men do not see the pic as depicting fearless love, but stupidity or blind love. One male commentator even wrote that the man in the picture above would be ‘hen-pecked’ by his wife, if he were to get married.
These are some of the varied responses, extracted from my FB Page –
If he’s my son, I’ll kick his stupid ass!!!
A beautiful display of love.
He must be a nerd, who may be was a virgin before he met her.
One thing I learned in my 4 years in Iraq and traveling through out Asia as private security contractor is that the world can be a very ugly and dangerous place and that sometimes the only way to find peace, beauty, and love… Is in that world you create with the one you love.
I wouldn’t like to do that to someone who I profess to love. And if ever I’d attempt to do that and the man allows me to do it, my respect for him will be lost outright.
Very sweet. Maybe they just like being together and are not concerned about others’ interpretations.
Do you agree with any of them?
What do you see, and how do you feel about it?
For me, it is always interesting to observe people’s different reactions and perspectives to the very same thing. In this case, a picture.
One same picture, but it provokes many different points of views. There is no wrong or right answer here.
The picture is captured a moment in time. We do not know what happened before this picture was taken, and we do not know what happened after it was taken. For all we know, the couple in the pic could have taken turns in ‘relieving’ one another while waiting for the train, which may be well and truly delayed. Or, it could very well be that the woman in the pic is ‘abusing’ the man’s accommodating behaviour.
We cannot judge on what we do not have complete information on. That would be unfair. Yet, we do it all the time – effortlessly so, in our daily lives.
In truth, our reaction or response and perspective of something or someone reveal more about who are – more than anything else. It really shows how we view life, people, love, relationships and etc on a very personal level. It does not necessarily mean that our perspectives are right. It just means that our conditioning, culture, education, or even upbringing were all very different. They are the reasons why we can all look the same thing, but see very different things from it.
If we can understand that there are many ways to look at the same situation and people, then our minds would be more open to accepting that not everyone will share our point of view. Above all, we can become more understanding of someone else’s perspective.
So, for those who appreciate loving gestures in any way or form, they would most likely recognise any act of love as a natural extension of that love. They would be more open to appreciating any fearless expressions of love, even if these do not conform to the society’s norms.
For those who value love, but would not want to be disrespected in any way may be more cautious as to how an expression of love would be carried out – be it fearless or blindly. Perhaps they have been hurt before, or had been betrayed, or even disrespected. Hence, they are more guarded with their expression of affection.
Finally, for those who have very strict or even rigid ideas about how women and men should act or behave would only accept those expressions of love that conform to their ideals. They would find it hard to associate anything else that differs from their beliefs.
I am just citing a few examples here. There are many more, of course, because humanity is very diverse.
As Henry David Thoreau said, “It is not what you look at that matters, it is what you see.”
My question would be, How do you know what you see is real?
Personally, I prefer to find out more, ask more questions or even investigate further. Because it is important to me that I do not end up with the wrong conclusion.
Hence, what I think I see is not as important as what the truth is really.
At the end of the day, we learn so much more when we allow ourselves to embrace the simple fact that there are various perspectives in the world. It might even help us resolve misunderstandings and miscommunications in our daily life.
I am very grateful that my friends, readers and fans are so willingly to share openly. In sharing, we help one another see a great deal more 🙂
Therefore, please do not be afraid to step out of our own parameters of the mind and look beyond our limited views. We may truly discover something amazing about ourselves, and others in the process.
As always, start your own brand of fearless living or loving, and love the life you live.