DO NOT JUDGE, JUST LOVE

Mother Teresa 1

 

MOTHER TERESA sure knows what she is talking about. Then again, she has made it a point to truly walk the talk.

Her whole life’s work was about loving others in her own special way. In this respect, her life and work became one. 

How many of us can safely say that we do that? 

Not all of us can be like Mother Teresa, nor would we choose to either. Because not every one of us would willingly live our lives for others. We want to live our lives for us. And there is nothing wrong with that. Not everyone is built for sainthood, and that is perfectly ok.

Perhaps, what each of us should try to understand and acknowledge is that we are all not that different in our desire to be happy – despite our different definitions of happiness. Hence, why waste time in judging others and their pursuit of happiness, especially if their pursuit of happiness does not harm anyone? Sometimes, it may be the only way they know how, or the only method that was available to them. Not every person is fortunate enough to have all the opportunities we have been bestowed with in this life. 

The more I travel and observe of life and people, the more I realise that everyone out there is fighting their own battle. 

Understand

I do realise that I live an enchanted life compared to many. Hence, I am eternally grateful for everything that I have. And whatever I do not have, I will not miss too much. Unless those are the very things that help me in becoming a better human being. Then, it becomes a valuable reason for me to acquire or incorporate.

Honestly, please know that on a daily basis, the struggle never ends for me either. Especially, on a personal level. It is very challenging to fight old habits, and inner demons. Nonetheless, I continue fighting the good fight, and working on myself. Because I firmly believe that I deserve a better me. And the people I love deserve a better me. Ultimately, I know that a better me will make a positive difference to those around me, no matter how minimal it will be. Personally, it is important that I do not give up on myself even if there are those who may do so. 

Of course, this is my personal choice. However, I dare say that most of us would like others to do the same for us as well. Because everyone appreciates courtesy, respect, kindness, empathy and appreciation. Regardless of how different we may look on the outside, on the inside, we value the same wonderful things. 

Real men speak

 

So, although we cannot dictate what others should or should not do and say, we can definitely exercise more control over what we say and do. Especially, in how we think of ourselves and of others. Maintaining a positive attitude begins with our minds as much as our hearts. How we behave and respond to people or situations is really our choice. 

I, for one, can never say this enough – not because it is the truth for me, but it is really because of how instrumental it has been for me and my life’s journey. The people who have been kind and inspirational to me are the very ones who helped me to become more than I could ever imagine. Whether it is my parents, my sisters, my daughter, my friends, Spiritual Teachers as well as strangers whom I may never meet again – each of them has taught me something incredible. Above all, they made me believe that I can become my greatest potential. This is why I will always say that I am nothing without each and every one of them. They made me feel that I am worthy of their love and grace. 

Despite my faults, weaknesses and mistakes, they continue to love and support me. They did not stop nurturing me with their kindness. They shine through by living their lives according to the values they uphold. Hence, they lead by example. 

There were times, as I am very sure, when I tested their patience or brought them to a whole new level of patience. Yet, they remain undeterred in their affection for me. In their own humility, they could even say that I was teaching them as much as they were educating me. This is where I learnt that real love and compassion are inexhaustible. There is simply no expiry date in true loving kindness.

Therefore, I say it again – never doubt that one kind loving gesture can literally make a world of difference to someone’s life. 

When each of us incorporates good value systems and virtues in ourselves, we would never lose them regardless where we go. It is the same with all the “learnings” that I have received from all my “Life-Teachers”. I can take myself away from my “Life-Teachers”, but I can never take away their “life-teachings” within me. They have become an integral part of me. 

If you have ever been the beneficiary of someone’s kindness or compassionate act, you’ll understand what I mean here. We will never forget. It changes us.

 

Real Love

 

In gratitude of the love and grace I have received all my life, I would like to remind every single person that you are also worth loving.

If anyone tells you otherwise, or have made you feel any less worthy – then it is only a reflection of their lack of love, not yours.

An individual who understands love, will always shower love to the people they meet. In the same vein, a person who understands peace will always create peace wherever they go. This is how we can learn to become our own source of love and peace. 

Yes, we can give love and peace to ourselves, as well as to those around us. To me, this is the greatest beauty of humanity. 

As we advance and evolve in this world, perhaps it would be a good idea to also cultivate a fearless loving culture in our global community – one is that steeped in compassion and understanding.

So, to each person reading this – please know that you are special and awesome. Even if this is the first time someone or a stranger like me has told you this, embrace it.

There will never be another quite like you.

Independence

“Never has there walked the face of the earth someone who thinks with your degree of insight, who loves with your degree of care. Or who feels with your degree of hope. And never has there been such a need for someone with gifts like yours, because at this very moment there are people only you can reach and differences only you can make.”  

Your #1 fan,

The Universe 

(from TUT – Notes from The Universe)

So, start your brand of fearless living and love the life you live.

Peace 🙂

Being Afraid Is Human, But Staying Afraid Is A Choice.

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